Couples Therapy for When Connection Feels Out of Reach
Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist Serving Washington State
"To be human is to need others and this is no flaw or weakness."
~ Dr. Sue Johnson
A strong, secure bond with your partner isn’t a luxury—it’s a lifeline.
When that bond feels shaky, everything else can feel harder too.
You might find yourself walking on eggshells, stuck in the same arguments, or lying in bed next to someone who suddenly feels miles away.
If you're the kind of person who usually figures things out, this can be maddening.
You're smart. You’re capable. You’ve powered through tough stuff before.
But fixing your relationship isn’t something you can muscle through. And it’s not because you’ve failed—it’s because relationships don’t respond to logic alone.
By the time couples land on this page, most have already tried the books, the late-night talks, the promises to “do better.” Some feel angry. Others feel numb. Most just feel exhausted and unsure of what to do next.
If that’s you, you’re not alone. And more importantly—there is a way through this.
How I Can Help
As a certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFT), I help partners break out of painful patterns and reconnect with the safety, closeness, and trust they’ve been missing.
EFT is one of the most well-researched, effective models of couples therapy.
It doesn’t just teach surface-level communication skills.
It helps you understand what’s really happening underneath the fights, the silence, or the disconnection—so you can finally feel seen, supported, and secure with each other again.
What Couples Therapy Can Help With:
✔️ Stop the same argument from happening on repeat
Learn how to communicate in a way that actually lands—and leaves both of you feeling heard.
✔️ Rebuild trust after betrayal or emotional disconnection
Whether it's an affair or years of resentment, therapy can help you repair what’s been damaged.
✔️ Strengthen intimacy and emotional closeness
Go beyond logistics and “roommate mode” to rediscover real connection.
✔️ Become more effective co-parents and partners
Collaborate on parenting, finances, chores, and the daily pressures of life without falling into blame.
✔️ Navigate big transitions with more stability
Whether it’s having a baby, a move, career changes, or fertility struggles—therapy helps you stay grounded in each other.
✔️ Heal through infertility, pregnancy, or postpartum challenges
Get the support you need to manage the emotional and relational toll of family-building.
✔️ Understand each other’s differences without going to war over them
You’ll learn how to recognize and respond to the needs underneath each other’s reactions—even when they feel miles apart from your own.
You Don’t Have to Keep Doing This Alone
The distress you feel—whether from distance, disconnection, or constant conflict—isn’t a sign that your relationship is broken beyond repair.
It’s a sign that you care deeply, and that the old tools just aren’t working anymore.
Therapy gives you a new way forward.
Not through blame. Not through criticism.
But through understanding, vulnerability, and real repair.
Let’s get you back on the same team.
Now offering virtual couples therapy for clients across Washington state